The most irregularly updated blog in all of blogdom...

Life just keeps getting more and more complicated for me.  Let's start with a quick rundown

• In my last post I was dreading a trip to the oncologist.  That turned out well.  It just so happens that the same proteins that are given off in ovarian and other peritoneal cancers are also shed by the pericardium when it is stretched.  Yep, the "tumor marker" was a side effect of the pericardial effusion.
• Mom's dementia has really progressed.  I don't know if it was the anesthesia from the surgery or the diminished oxygen when her heart wasn't pumping well, but she has really deteriorated.  
• Classes ended, we had finals and graduation.  Summer stuff officially starts next week.

And now the big news...  Handyman (my SO) and I have filed for temporary custody of Wednesday and Pugsley.  I imagine that many of you intelligent readers are not surprised by this.  Seems like Handyman and I are the only ones familiar with this situation that are.  Stepdaughter isn't sure that she's up for motherhood.  She'd like to give them up for adoption.   She's taking a few weeks "off" with some therapy to figure it out.  We have not had direct contact with Sailor to know for sure what his feelings are, but according to Stepdaughter, his vote is 'No'.

So, I'm a 40-something grandmother, who has never had children, raising my grandchildren.

And taking care of my Mom with dementia.

There's a lot to be figured out here, and it appears that a lot of the kid responsibility has fallen to me.  It kind of makes sense, since I've been off work the past two weeks.  But it kind of doesn't.  There's going to need to be big discussions about balance of duties etc.  Everything has fallen through the cracks, bill paying, reports for work, thinking, putting laundry away.   I'm not going to last long at this pace.

And then there's research.  That third leg of the stool of my career.  The thing that I really only get time to work on in the summer.  Yeah, the summer that now has twins in it.